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Sex and sexuality
`Natalie, my husband kisses your hands, and I the rest.' - Collette,
in a note to Natalie Barney
`I regret to say that we of the F.B.I. are powerless to act in
cases of oral-genital intimacy, unless it has in some way obstructed
interstate commerce.' - J. Edgar Hoover
`Don't label me. I'm a people person.' - Sandra Bernhardt
poly. I host some of the regular
Poly Boston events, and I can sometimes be found at the
Boston-area bi brunches, which happen twice a month.
This page is mostly just a list of resources, but someday I hope
to put up more of my own stuff.
The Society for Human Sexuality's
Concise Guide to Safer Sex says the following about contraceptive failure:
``If unwanted pregnancy is a possible outcome of the condom failure,
you should call 1-888-NOT-2-LATE to find out about emergency contraception
in your area.'' I'm repeating that here because I think anybody who might
ever have vaginal intercourse with a person of the other sex should
know that number. (Incidentally, emergency contraception is
not the same thing as abortion, although people who are opposed
to abortion are often opposed to emergency contraception as well:
emergency contraception prevents a fertilized egg from implanting
in the uterine wall, preventing a pregnancy from starting.
In that, it's similar to the way an IUD works.)
Alternatives to Marriage Project: My friends Marshall and Dorian have started the
Alternatives to Marriage Project, which `provides resources, advocacy, and support to people who
have chosen not to get married, are unable to marry, or are in
the process of deciding whether marriage is right for them.'
While the organization isn't directly aimed at queer or poly people,
it's certainly relevant to us; their site says `Some, like same-gender
couples and those in relationships of more than two people, are
not legally allowed to marry.' They're working on research
for a book and looking for unmarried couples to interview.
- I run
announce mailing list for Boston-area poly and poly-interested people, which was
started by my friend Bearpaw. There's a web interface you can
use to subscribe. (You'll also need to reply to a piece of
mail you get.)
This list is for announcements of Boston-area poly events (mostly
discussion groups, socials, and café nights), which happen
approximately weekly. Anybody can announce an event, although
events should be specifically of interest to this community.
(announce is for announcements; there's a companion chat list that
people can sign up for in addition. You get information about
that when you sign up for
announce; since people should only sign up for the chat list if they're
also signed up for the announcements list, I won't duplicate that
Poly Boston (http://polyboston.org/) is a group in the Boston area which hosts discussion groups,
support groups, social events such as brunches, and many other
kinds of events. The discussion groups happen about every week;
some of them are regularly scheduled, and some of them happen
irregularly whenever anybody wants to host them. Events are
announced on the
announce mailing list, described above. Meetings and other events
are announced on
announce mailing list.
Family Tree is another poly group in the Northeast, and they have an
event calendar. They are geographically more dispersed than Poly Boston,
and have a paper newsletter and a phone number as well as an electronic
Other poly stuff
Bi (and other queer) stuff
Boston-area events and groups
Biversity Boston is a Boston-area bi social group. Events are
open to all bi and bi-friendly people. There are lots of ad-hoc
events, and also several regularly scheduled events each month.
There's at least one event most weekends.
Rhode Island-area events
My friends Marshall and Dorian started Biversity Providence for
folks in Rhode Island. Other bi and bi-friendly people who
can get to events in the greater Providence area are also welcome.
Other bi/queer stuff
General sexuality information
Speeches and essays
Other people's pages
Stef Jones' home page
(new URL) has poly and general sexuality resources, as well as various
other fun things.
Kirsten Kuhail has a whole buncha bi stuff which she calls
BiDay BiNight at her site, including
personals ads you can browse (or post your own).
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last modified 2016.04.21