Sex and sexuality

This page is mostly just a list of resources, but someday I hope to put up more of my own stuff.

Emergency contraception: The Society for Human Sexuality's Concise Guide to Safer Sex says the following about contraceptive failure: ``If unwanted pregnancy is a possible outcome of the condom failure, you should call 1-888-NOT-2-LATE to find out about emergency contraception in your area.'' I'm repeating that here because I think anybody who might ever have vaginal intercourse with a person of the other sex should know that number. (Incidentally, emergency contraception is not the same thing as abortion, although people who are opposed to abortion are often opposed to emergency contraception as well: emergency contraception prevents a fertilized egg from implanting in the uterine wall, preventing a pregnancy from starting. In that, it's similar to the way an IUD works.)

Alternatives to Marriage Project: My friends Marshall and Dorian have started the Alternatives to Marriage Project, which `provides resources, advocacy, and support to people who have chosen not to get married, are unable to marry, or are in the process of deciding whether marriage is right for them.' While the organization isn't directly aimed at queer or poly people, it's certainly relevant to us; their site says `Some, like same-gender couples and those in relationships of more than two people, are not legally allowed to marry.' They're working on research for a book and looking for unmarried couples to interview.

Poly stuff

Boston-area events

• I run the announce mailing list for Boston-area poly and poly-interested people, which was started by my friend Bearpaw. There's a web interface you can use to subscribe. (You'll also need to reply to a piece of mail you get.)

  This list is for announcements of Boston-area poly events (mostly discussion groups, socials, and café nights), which happen approximately weekly. Anybody can announce an event, although events should be specifically of interest to this community.

  (announce is for announcements; there's a companion chat list that people can sign up for in addition. You get information about that when you sign up for announce; since people should only sign up for the chat list if they're also signed up for the announcements list, I won't duplicate that information here.)

• Poly Boston (http://polyboston.org/) is a group in the Boston area which hosts discussion groups, support groups, social events such as brunches, and many other kinds of events. The discussion groups happen about every week; some of them are regularly scheduled, and some of them happen irregularly whenever anybody wants to host them. Events are announced on the announce mailing list, described above. Meetings and other events are announced on the announce mailing list.
• Family Tree is another poly group in the Northeast, and they have an event calendar. They are geographically more dispersed than Poly Boston, and have a paper newsletter and a phone number as well as an electronic mailing list.

Other poly stuff

• Bearpaw also has A brief introduction to polyamory, which is an electronic version of a pamphlet he wrote for the BRC
• My friend Natalie, who lives in Ottawa, has a great essay titled ``Some of my thoughts on Polyamory....''
• My friend Catya has a Polyamory Page, with lots of links.
• The Polyamory Society is a poly organisation with a web page full of poly resources, including a Local Polyamory Support Groups Index (currently with groups in the US and Canada) (new)
• The Society for Human Sexuality have a bunch of documents about polyamory.
• The poly (formerly triples) mailing list home page is maintained by my friend Ert Dredge

Bi (and other queer) stuff

Boston-area events and groups

• Biversity Boston, a Boston-area bi social group
• The current Biversity Boston calendar of Boston-area bi events
• Regularly scheduled events
• The Boston Gay & Bisexual Married Men's Support Group meets every first and third Monday from 7:30-10:00 in downtown Boston; call 617/576-9747 for more information or 617/625-0330 for directions.
• The Boston Lesbian Avengers are really cool (and I gather they are bi- and trans-friendly).

Rhode Island-area events

• Biversity Providence

Other bi/queer stuff

• My friend Catya has a Bisexuality Page. (new)
• Annalee Newitz and Jillian Sandell's article ``Bisexuality And How To Use It: Toward a Coalitional Identity Politics'' talks about bisexual identity and its invisibility and discusses how a `continuum model of identity' exemplified by bisexuality (and bi-racial identity, for example) can contribute to coalition-building.
• Kate O'Neill's `bi all means...' page full of bi (and other) links.
• Adult Children of Heterosexuals, including Bisexual Hell, which has a good list of links (maintained by the charming Dana Moser)
• soc.bi home page and FAQ
• The Bisexual Resource Center, based in Boston (but serving the world)
• The Bisexual Test, by Albert Lunde
• Calendar of LesBiGay events by region (new; currently includes parts of North America, the Netherlands and Flanders, and Slovenia - but you can add your own events!)
• The Safer Sex Page
• Queer Resources Directory

General sexuality information

• What I mean by `bi'
• What I mean by `poly'
• Shopping for a religion? You might want to check out this amusing chart on religion and sexual ethics, which Jef Poskanzer quotes from the San Francisco Chronicle.
• The Sex Education Web Circle focusses `on sites which approach sex from a perspective that is both factually accurate and pleasure-positive.' It's hosted by...
• The Society for Human Sexuality, who have a bunch of resources available on such topics as safer sex, performing oral sex, BDSM, hosting erotic events (such as sex parties), and many other topics. This is sex-positive sex education for intelligent grownups.
• The Body is an AIDS and HIV information resource.

Speeches and essays

• An excellent speech by Elise Matthesen from the 1994 International Conference Celebrating Bisexuality (fixed links)
• `Design For Living: Strengthening the Body Politic Seven Ways' by Armistead Maupin

Other people's pages

• Stef Jones' home page (new URL) has poly and general sexuality resources, as well as various other fun things.
• Kirsten Kuhail has a whole buncha bi stuff which she calls BiDay BiNight at her site, including personals ads you can browse (or post your own).